{"id":111736,"date":"2020-03-03T06:00:16","date_gmt":"2020-03-03T06:00:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/focusme.com\/?p=111736"},"modified":"2025-02-08T06:09:41","modified_gmt":"2025-02-08T06:09:41","slug":"the-truth-about-changing-a-habit","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/focusme.com\/blog\/the-truth-about-changing-a-habit\/","title":{"rendered":"The Truth about Changing a Habit"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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How many times have you thought about changing a habit of yours without doing anything about it?<\/em><\/p>

How about getting started, but then finding yourself totally failing and forgetting that you had even begun a new regime in the first place?<\/p>

Too many times to count?<\/em><\/p>

Why is it so hard to create life-long transformation of healthy changes?<\/p>

Well, there\u2019s actually research in habit-formation and breaking \u201cbad\u201d habits and we thought we\u2019d discuss some of that with you today.<\/p>

So you can stop feeling guilty<\/em> if you haven\u2019t kicked that pesky habit yet AND to help you take the next step<\/em> toward a healthier, happier, more-in-integrity you.<\/em><\/p>

Download this article as a PDF<\/a><\/h2>

<\/a>Admitting Where You\u2019re at in the Change Process<\/strong><\/h2>

The key to progressing in life is being painfully, brutally honest with yourself.<\/p>

\u201cI\u2019m not willing to change.\u201d<\/em><\/p>

\u201cI\u2019m not ready yet.\u201d<\/em><\/p>

\u201cI know I shouldn\u2019t do this.\u201d<\/em><\/p>

\u201cI need help.\u201d<\/em><\/p>

These phrases demonstrate a mentality of total honesty. From here – you can take the next step in your change process – if you choose.<\/em><\/p>

Without acknowledging the real hardcore truth, you risk being in illusion.<\/p>

\u201cThen you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.\u201d<\/em><\/p>

– John 8:32<\/p>

<\/a>The 6 Stages of Change<\/strong><\/h2>

Now, being honest about your struggle with an unwanted habit isn\u2019t the end of the journey, it\u2019s just the beginning.<\/p>

In order to skillfully progress down the path, you\u2019ll also need to recognize which stage of change <\/em>you\u2019re in.<\/p>

Doctors of psychology, James Prochaska, John Norcross, and Carlo Declemente studied more than 1,000 people who were permanently able to alter their lives, and they present their findings in the book, Changing for Good: A Revolutionary Six-Stage Program for Overcoming Bad Habits and Moving Your Life Positively Forward.<\/em><\/p>

They discovered and outlined the six stages of change, knowledge of which is incredibly empowering.<\/p>

The six stages of change are:<\/p>

  1. Pre-contemplation – when you\u2019re resisting change and not willing to think about it yet<\/li>
  2. Contemplation – when change appears to be on the horizon<\/li>
  3. Preparation – when you\u2019ve committed and you\u2019re getting ready to implement change<\/li>
  4. Action – when it\u2019s time to move<\/li>
  5. Maintenance – when you\u2019re managing long-term habit change<\/li>
  6. Termination – when you exit the cycle of change<\/li><\/ol>

    Understanding your stage means you can apply appropriate practices to maintain growth, without totally and utterly giving up.<\/a><\/p>

    (And by the way – you\u2019re worth it!)<\/p>

    <\/a>Tips for Moving through the Stages<\/strong><\/h2>

    Here are a few tips to help you change that habit (or those habits \ud83d\ude09 ).<\/p>

    Constantly strive to raise your consciousness.<\/em><\/strong> This means increasing your knowledge about yourself and the problem habit. Why? To keep your mind sharp while you navigate the rough waters ahead.<\/p>

    Use your social life for you, not against you.<\/em><\/strong> By increasing social alternatives, you keep a connection to people who are living more like how you want to live, and this decreases your temptation and desire to do the unwanted habits.<\/p>

    Get therapeutic or emotional support.<\/em><\/strong> You can assess your feelings and thoughts about yourself, your change process, and your habits more effectively with support than without it. Enlisting the support of others also helps you be steady on the path instead of swinging to extremes of restricting and binging.<\/p>

    Make commitments.<\/em><\/strong> It goes without saying that by choosing to act and believe in your ability to change, you have better chances of getting the result you desire. Use commitment as a weapon in your battle!<\/p>

    Implement healthy substitutes.<\/em><\/strong> You can substitute a healthy behavior for an unhealthy one, i.e. drinking a smoothie instead of smoking a cigarette. It\u2019s really that simple and gets you through those first few days, weeks, and months of restricting yourself from something you previously enjoyed.<\/p>

    Create a reward system for yourself.<\/em><\/strong> You can create contracts, agreements, or reward plans with yourself or others for acting in a positive way toward your goal. This kind of makes change fun\u2026<\/p>

    <\/a>Your Path Forward<\/strong><\/h2>

    If you\u2019ve been struggling to implement a change in your lifestyle – breaking bad habits and creating new healthy ones – you\u2019re not alone.<\/em><\/p>

    Your story is unique, but you\u2019re human. There\u2019s something universal about the battle between the lower and higher self.<\/p>

    Trust in the wisdom of being immersed in the truth – whatever it may be.<\/p>

    Access your truth, get support, and don\u2019t give up. You are literally 1 in 7.7 billion humans on this planet also struggling to stretch into a better version of yourself.<\/p>

    Change is challenging.<\/p>

    But it\u2019s possible. And worth it.<\/p>

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